嫌いなことに感謝　嫌いなことを排除する行動が重要？

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本日は２０２２年5月29日 日曜日、都内の天気は晴れで予想最高気温は31度で今年初の猛暑日。群馬など内陸部は35度に上がる地域があるそうです。まだ5月なのですが容赦ない気候です。太陽さんほどほどにお願いいたします。。

さて本日のお題は“ 嫌いなことに感謝 ”と題して執筆したいと思います。昨日は好きなことについて筆を進めましたが、本日はその真逆で“ 嫌いなこと ”についてです。

みなさん好きなものってすぐに思い浮かびますよね。食べ物とか趣味とかで イチゴが好きとかテニスが好きとか。好きがこうじて職業につながったりすることもあります。テニス好きが極まってプロのテニスプレーヤーになったりとか。イチゴ好きがこうじてイチゴ農家になったりとか。

好きなんだけど職業にするまでに至らないケースってどれくらいの確立なんでしょうか。おそらく、好きがこうじて職業につながる（本業の生業にまでなる）ケースは数パーセントとかかなり低い確率なのではないでしょうか。好きを職業にして稼いではいるんだけれどそれだけでは暮らせない人も含めれば少しハードルは下がるかもですが。

おそらく多くの人が当てはまる

“ 好きなことではないけれど暮らしてゆくための仕事を続けている ”状態の人はかなり多いと推測できます。この中には好きで始めたのだけれど現在はあまり好きではなく生活のためにその仕事を続けている人も含みます。

こうした人へ向けて、好きを職業にできなかった場合にどう考えたらより幸せに暮らしてゆけるかを考えたいと思います。

結論を言うと“ 嫌いなことにフォーカスする ”　ことが重要かと思います。

みなさん嫌いなことって思い浮かびますよね。やりたくないこと、時間を取りたくないことです。

例えば、満員の通勤電車に乗るのが✖　スーツを着るのが✖　夜遅くまで起きているのが✖　デスクワークが✖　とか。。

上記事案の解決策は

・満員の通勤電車に乗るのが✖　→　会社の近くに住む

・スーツを着るのが✖　→　私服の職場を選ぶ

・夜遅くまで起きているのが✖　→　朝方の仕事を選ぶ

・デスクワークが✖　→　外回りの職種を選ぶ

などが思い浮かびます。好きを仕事にできている人の場合、満員の通勤電車に乗るのが✖だとしても「好きな仕事ができているのだから仕方ないか。」とあきらめの気持ちがあり通勤電車に乗ることを仕方なしと受け入れられる余裕が生まれたりもしますが、好きでもない仕事をしている人の場合は、仕事の苦のおまけに満員の通勤電車に乗るという この方にとっての苦が加わる二重苦は容認できないことでしょう。それを続ければ近い将来終わりが来ることが容易に想像できます。仕事で我慢＋仕事に行く交通手段も我慢・・・我慢の王様は壊れても致し方ないですね。

ですから生活のために好きでもない仕事をしている人の場合は、嫌いなことを抽出してできる限り嫌いなことを排除する行動は精神衛生＆生活防衛上＋資産形成上とても重要と考えます。今より条件の良いそれも自分の好きに関係する稼げる仕事があるのならばとっくに鞍替えしているはずなのですから。

では、嫌いなこと「満員の通勤電車に乗るのが✖」がどうしても排除できない場合はどうしたらよいのでしょうか。都心の場合などは家賃が高すぎて会社周辺に住めない事例がありますね。家賃払うためがメインで働いてるのではそもそもがおかしくなってしまいます。かといって家を買うのは会社勤めが終わったら会社の側に住む理由事態なくなってしまうわけで。都心の住宅事情は選択肢が多くありそうで一般的な会社員の場合、お金を考えると実はあまり選択肢は多くないようです。

それでは「 仕事で我慢＋仕事に行く交通手段も我慢 」という二重苦をどのように受け流せばよいのでしょうか。

一つは家に近い職場の仕事を探すこと。賃金面のアップダウンは考慮いたしませんが同じ嫌な仕事だとしても ひとつ苦が減ればストレスが大きく減ることは想像できます。これは現在の仕事が高給であればあるほど難易度が上がりますね。そもそもお金のために働いている現在の職場への経済的＋心理的依存度が高いわけですから。こうした人たちのことを厳しい言い方にはなりますが“ 安定収入の盲目的奴隷 ”とわたくしは定義しております。大手企業サラリーマンの多くがこれに当てはまるのではないかと思っております。

二つ目の受け流し方は、休日の過ごし方ではないでしょうか。平日仕事、通勤でかなりのストレスを浴びてはいるが、休日に趣味や家族と過ごすことでかなりリフレッシュして何とか？また月曜日から金曜日何とか頑張るか。。と気持ちを切り替えられる方もいます。おそらく日本のサラリーマンの多くがこれに当てはまり、厚労省や会社もこれを知ってか有給休暇消化の目標とか休日出勤、時間外労働の規制などを建前上 言っているのではないかと。最近の労働環境を知人などに聞くと、仕事のパソコンのログを開示され時間外や休日にパソコンを開いている場合は都度都度何をしたのか職場に提出を求められるという。。厚労省や会社は生かさず殺さず？の貴重な“ 賃金そこそこ、税収＋社会保険ごっそり ”の労働力を細く長くイケスに入れて管理しておきたいのでしょうか。会社員が激減したら日本の税収や社会保険は見通しが立ち行かなくなりますしね。女性活躍なんとか・・もこれと同じ観点でしょうか。要は安定的に税金など国の収入元をとれる人を増やしたいというお役所の発想でしょうかね。

話はそれましたが、「 仕事で我慢＋仕事に行く交通手段も我慢 」という二重苦をうまく受け流し「 休日に趣味や家族と過ごすことでかなりリフレッシュして何とか？また月曜日から金曜日何とか頑張るかの人 」を増産に成功した日本では、誰もこうした二重苦に苦しんでいる人たちを否定しないどころか“ 仕事を頑張っている人 ”と称賛し応援するよう教育されております。満員の通勤電車に乗ることも含めて“ 仕事をがんばっている ”と完全に洗脳されていてほとんど反論の余地がないような風潮にまで熟成しきっているようです。日本の高度経済成長期の追いつけ追い越せ的な洗脳の開始が素晴らしかったのかもですね。この流れに逆らう人がいなかった（いたとしても大きな流れにはさせなかった）から令和の現在まで続いているのでしょう。

“ 嫌いなことにフォーカスする ”　することで、嫌いorやりたくないことを排除しうまく受け流して現状やらなければならない“ お金を稼ぐためだけの仕事 ”を何とか続ける若しくは、ストレスをいくらかでも減らして稼ぎ続けるって結構大変ですね。何しろいろいろな思惑や利権が絡みまくっているのですから。。そりゃ気もおかしくなりますよ　ストレスの宝箱状態なんですもの。

Appreciate what you don’t like. Is it important to take action to eliminate what you don’t like?

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Today is Sunday, May 29, 2022, and the weather in Tokyo is sunny with an expected high temperature of 31 degrees, the first hottest day of the year. Some inland areas, such as Gunma, are said to rise to 35 degrees. It’s only May, but the weather is unforgiving. Please be moderate, Mr. Sun.

Now, I would like to write today’s subject, “Appreciate what you don’t like. Yesterday, I wrote about what I like, but today, I would like to write about the exact opposite: what I dislike.

I’m sure you can all think of things you like right off the top of your head. Like food or hobbies, like strawberries or tennis. Sometimes, your love of something can lead you to your profession. Like, a love of tennis can lead to becoming a professional tennis player. Or, a love of strawberries may lead to becoming a strawberry farmer.

How often do people like something but do not make a career out of it? Probably, the percentage of cases in which a love of something leads to a profession (even becoming a main occupation) is a few percent, which is a very low probability. If we include those who earn money from their favorite occupation but cannot live on it alone, the hurdle may be lowered a little.

Probably a lot of people would fit the bill.

” I would guess that there are quite a few people who “do not like what they do but continue to work to make a living. This includes people who started doing a job they liked but now don’t really like but continue to do it for a living.

For these people, I would like to think about how they can live more happily if they cannot make what they love into a career.

To conclude, I think it is important to “focus on what you dislike.

I’m sure everyone can think of things they dislike. It is something you don’t want to do, something you don’t want to take the time to do.

For example, riding a crowded commuter train ✖ wearing a suit ✖ staying up late at night ✖ working at a desk ✖ etc.

The solutions to the above matters are.

Ride a crowded commuter train ✖ → Live close to the office.

Wearing a suit ✖ → Choose a place of work that requires plain clothes.

Staying up late at night ✖ → Choose a morning job

Staying up late at night ✖ Choose a morning job

These are just a few examples that come to mind. For those who are able to turn what they love into a job, even if riding a crowded commuter train is ✖, they may feel that “I can’t help it if I can do a job I love.” However, for those who work in a job they do not like, the double burden of riding a crowded commuter train on top of the pain of their work is unacceptable. It is easy to imagine the end coming in the near future if you keep doing that. Patience at work + patience with transportation to work…the king of patience can’t help but break down.

So in the case of people who work jobs they don’t like for a living, I think it is very important for mental health & life defense + asset building to extract what you don’t like and act to eliminate what you don’t like as much as possible. If there was a better and more profitable job that was related to what you love, you would have switched jobs by now.

So what if you can’t eliminate your dislike of “riding crowded commuter trains ✖”? There are cases where you can’t live near your company because the rent is too high, for example in central Tokyo. If you are working mainly to pay rent, it would be crazy to begin with. On the other hand, if you buy a house, you will have no reason to live by the company after you finish working for the company. It seems that there are many options for housing in the city center, but for the average company employee, there are not many options when considering money.

So, how can you deal with the double burden of “having to put up with work and having to put up with the transportation to work”?

One option is to look for a job closer to home. I won’t take into account the increase or decrease in wages, but I can imagine that even if the job is the same, the stress will be greatly reduced if you have to endure one less hardship. The higher the salary of your current job, the more difficult it will be to find a job closer to home. The higher the salary, the more difficult it is, since there is a high level of economic and psychological dependence on the current job, where they are working for money in the first place. I define these people as “blind slaves with a stable income. I believe that many of the major corporate salarymen fall into this category.

The second way to pass it off is the way they spend their days off. Although they are exposed to a lot of stress from work and commuting during the week, they manage to refresh themselves by spending time with their hobbies and family on their days off. Some people are able to change their mindset and say, “I’m going to work hard from Monday to Friday again. Some people are able to change their mindset and say, “I’m going to work hard Monday through Friday again. I suspect that many Japanese salarymen fall into this category, and that the Ministry of Health, Labor and Welfare (MHLW) and their companies are aware of this and are, in effect, setting targets for the use of paid vacations, working on holidays, and restricting overtime work. According to my acquaintances in the recent working environment, they are required to disclose their work computer logs and submit what they have done each time they open their computers after hours or on weekends and holidays. The Ministry of Health, Labor, and Welfare and the company are not letting them live or die, are they? Do the Ministry of Health, Labor, and Welfare and the companies want to keep the valuable labor force with “modest wages, tax revenues, and social insurance” alive for a long, thin period of time? If the number of company employees were to decrease drastically, Japan’s tax revenues and social insurance would become unpredictable. I wonder if this is the same point of view for women’s activities. In short, the bureaucratic idea is to increase the number of people who can stably receive income from taxes and other government sources.

I’m digressing here, but I’m glad that I’ve been able to put aside the double burden of “having to endure work and having to endure transportation to and from work” and “spending time with hobbies and family on my days off to refresh myself and somehow manage to get back on track? In Japan, which has succeeded in increasing the number of people who “work hard Monday through Friday again,” no one denies those who suffer from this double burden, but rather praises and supports them as “people who are working hard at work. ” and are educated to admire and support them. It seems that the trend has matured to the point where there is almost no room for objection, as people are completely brainwashed to believe that they are “doing their best at work,” including riding the crowded commuter trains. Maybe the start of the brainwashing to catch up and overtake during Japan’s period of rapid economic growth was wonderful. No one went against this trend (or if they did, they didn’t let it become a big trend), which is probably why it has continued to the present day in 2022.

” Focus on what you don’t like ” to eliminate what you don’t like or don’t want to do, and to accept what you do and have to do. “It’s quite difficult to manage to keep working just to make money or to keep earning money with some reduction of stress. After all, there are so many different agendas and interests involved. It’s a treasure chest of stress.

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